My worst wedding nightmare is to have a screaming child running up and down the aisles. Or worse, the parents of said screaming child, doing nothing to make it stop.
The wedding invitations are out and replies are starting to flow in. On the invitation we stated who is invited to our wedding. There can be no doubt. However, today we go a reply stating that a friend of my Dear Fiancée’s will be bringing his 2,5 year old child and “takes it that this is in order”!
Let me just state here that I really like children, so this is not a case of me hating kids or anything like that. But I have some fundamental problems with this.
1. You can’t assume that your children are invited to the wedding. Especially when no mention of them is made on the invitation and only you and your partners are mentioned.
2. If the wedding invitation states no children, that includes all children unless a certain child has been specifically invited by the bridal couple.
3. “I take it that is in order” is something you would write on a business letter to someone, not in a reply to a wedding invitation, especially when you are being cheeky and bringing your child along when it was specifically requested that you don’t
4. Now I look like a bridezilla when I have to go back to the guest and say no. Especially since this is a friend of my Dear Fiancée who I don’t really know
I can certainly understand if a newborn baby is being breastfed that it would need to be with the mother. There isn’t a complete lack of compassion in me. But if our other friends can get baby sitters for their small kids, then surely everyone can?
Am I completely out of line?
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You are absolutely not out of line. We are having the same issue and I can’t believe how snippy people are being. Their little kids are not on the invitations, they just don’t get it. They have options—get a sitter, one spouse stays home with child, or don’t come to the wedding. People feel so entitled today and nobody respects your wishes. Also not a child hater. Just don’t want a squalling month old or a 2 year old tantrum or a 3 year old announcing loud and clear: I hafta go potty! In the middle of the ceremony. Geez people, take a breath. It’s not that big of a deal. Stay home and let us know so we don’t have a meal waiting for you at $20 a pop. Everybody is going to live.
I am glad to know I am not the only one with this problem. How can it be so hard to understand that small kids need to be babysat so the adults can enjoy the party. I am flabbergasted.
My Fiancees friend is now very upset. His wife isn’t happy with a baby sitter. The child is 2.5 years old and has NEVER been babysat before. How is that??? Seems mad to me. But I am so over it. They need to sort themselves out.